“You know, all I needed you to be a little supportive me at this moment. I wish you could have little empathy for me.”
I have heard people saying this on multiple occasions.
And, these are one of those moments, which most of the times can make or break your relations.
So, how to know that you (or the one you know) is an empath or not. Here are some of the signs to help you.
In layman terms, being an empath is just like the opposite of being a narcissist. You either are an empath or you aren’t. It’s not a trait that is learned. You are always open, so to speak, to process other people’s feelings and energy, which means that you really feel, and in many cases take on the emotions of others.
Empathy is the ability most humans have to understand the way someone else is feeling. Unless you are a psychopath, narcissist, or sociopath, you will have the ability to feel empathy for others on some level. How much empathy we feel is on a scale, and some people feel it more intensely than others.
People very high up on the scale are known as empaths, and they take it to the next level. An empath is an emotional sponge who absorb the stress and also the positive emotions into their own bodies from other people.
They don’t have the filters
Being an empath doesn’t just mean having a lot of compassion. In many ways, empaths don’t have the normal filters other people do. They take in a lot of what’s going on around them and are very sensitive to noise, smell, and excessive talking. This means they are easily overwhelmed by crowds and can be exhausted after just short periods of time in social situations.
They need time alone
To unwind, empaths often need time alone. Sometimes they need to sleep alone, which can be a tricky conversation to have with a partner. Things you expect in a relationship like being close can be draining to an empath, even if their partner’s intentions are good.
Setting boundaries can be difficult
Boundaries are a real struggle for empaths, one reason being that they always want to please others, and not disappoint anyone. Unfortunately, this means they can be taken advantage of by manipulative people. Narcissists and empaths attract each other, as narcissists see someone they can use, and the empaths see someone they can help and fix.
– Safar The Journey
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